So, if you have read my bio then you're aware that I had no information to help me in my search. What do we do when we have no information? Like nada.......
Good news! There are MANY things that you can do:
1. Go straight to DNA testing - this can be done on any site that offers it. I would suggest ancestry.com for the enormous amount of search data they have to offer ie, birth, marriage and death records (a.k.a vital records). They also have an extensive amount of immigration records, records that span the world, military records, grave records (Find A Grave) and have attached newspapers.com as well. Their DNA database is HUGE right now and growing every day! Go for it! You are going to end up with a list of DNA matches in 8 weeks!
2. Request non-identifying information from the state. Non identifying information is just that, non-identifying information about your adoption case including non identifying information about your birth parents. This can include occupations, family situations (number and order of siblings), ethnicity, location, etc. So, if you were born in one state and adopted in another I suggest requesting it from the adopting state first as any record of the people associated to your adoption should travel with your birth/adoption record. Usually, the birth and adoption take place in the same state. If that is the case go to the birth/adoption state. Some states give more info then others and the state has been known to INCLUDE (and not take out) some pertinent and useful information
. It never hurts to TRY!
3. I cannot stress this enough - DON'T BE SHY!!!! Knock on as many doors as you can. You never know when you are going to have someone open the door who is willing and able to help you. If you ask enough people for help you will find it. Remember when one door closes another one opens and wherever there's a no there's a YES!
4. Ask your state for your "original birth certificate." Google a search for "Open adoption records by state" and you will be able to see if your state is "open" or partially open. Each year we have people lobbying for opening adoption records per state. They are fighting for you to be able to obtain your "original birth certificates."More and more states are opening their records all the time.
5. (If you have SOME information) You may post post and post away on reunion registry sites. There are many! Don't shy away from the ones that ask for a "donation" or a fee. I have found they are maintained better. That doesn't mean you should not post on a free site, but I have found that the ones that have a fee or ask for a donation are usually administered by a person who you can actually communicate with and sometimes they can be very helpful. There are many people out there (thousands) of search angels working behind closed doors for no fees who can assist you. They bounce from site to site picking up people's cases and will do research on them based on the information given. Note: this works when you HAVE information to input onto the site like agency name, a last name of birth mother and date of birth of birth mother, basically any info to get them going in a direction. Don't hold your breath if someone does pick up your case. They go out as fast as they come in and when they hit a wall they are on to the next case, but they DO help!